5 habits of people who are remarkably successful

It is undoubtful, we all believe that success of an individual completely depends on his hard work as this was how our teacher at primary school taught us. If that is so, millions of people who work hard every day must have been more successful, right? When we have a deeper look at the lives of people who are more successful(people who have complete financial freedom and people who are in higher designations) possess some different qualities that have enabled them to reach higher levels.

Let me now simplify and jot down the five major steps which successful people must have allowed in their lives to scale up to their positions.

1 Handling emotions

The success of an individual depends on how he handles his emotions. In fact, the people who are more successful are the people who know to handle their emotions intelligently. Millions of examples can be quoted for this. Perhaps, the best example that strikes me is a lady software engineer who was one of my trainees in the position of a project manager in a leading software company. Most often they leave the company and reach home by late evening after which she has to take care of her family members, both these tasks involves more stress and if she is not able to manage her emotions naturally she would have been unsuccessful both in the process as a home maker at home and as a project manager at her office. This is the situations with most of the women especially those in higher designations. Positive mental attitude like joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, pride, hope, love are always the signs of successful people. Emotions like fear, anger, anxiety, sorrow could bring nothing but failures.

2 Staying happy

Success for some people is to make more money and for few others it to become famous. However, the outcome of success is happiness. The modern theory says only people who are more happy can be more successful in their life. Serotonin, which is a chemical created by the human body acts as a neurotransmitter influences the majority of the brain cells. The deficiency of serotonin would lead to loss of appetite, energy, sleep, memory and sexual desire, the secretion of serotonin depends on the happiness of an individual. The Americans who stand as one of the top ten happiest people in the world are the successful too. The ‘Live Happy’ magazine states that people who are extremely happy always are the people who are more audacious and can easily handle a tough situation in life.

3 Eat well

We all know that eating healthy food helps in improving our physic and in avoiding health issues, but food plays a major role in have more energy, feel great, improve your outlook and stabilize your mood too. Most of the people, students especially who prepare for their board exams, software engineers sometimes never care for their food hoping for doing best at their work which would only give a negative effect. Thomas Corley, the author of ‘Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits Of Wealthy Individuals’ says rich people value their health, watch their waistline and count calories everyday. He says that is because they know the end of their career is the biggest earning years and they always expect to extend their career four to five years beyond everyone else.

Give way for others

We have always either misunderstood what success  is, or never understood. I used to ask my trainees to define success during most of my training sessions and for which I receive no answer or only irrelevant answers. I strongly believe that one cannot succeed without knowing what success is and where his success in life is. We all believe that for me to succeed in life someone has to fail which never happens. Nepoleon Hills defines success as the process of getting whatever we want from life without affecting the principles of others and helping others to achieve it. Successful people are those who have analyzed what they exactly want in their life and are also the people who help others to achieve it.

Sleep on it

We have learnt about successful people and imagine to ourselves that it is either fatalistic or luck. Perhaps we fail to realize that they have sweat on it for years together. Success is never a one day story, it takes months or sometimes years to reach our vision, but what is more required is to stay focused and determined until the goal is reached. The  successful entrepreneurs, eminent sports persons all have one thing in common, they all have reaalised where they have to be and what they have to do and work continuously on it.

All of which is interesting, but are these findings useful? Kindly write to me, your feedback would make me more energetic. Also do remember a fact that any training programme or self help article would become successful when it is realised and practiced in life.

Be ready for the change in your life

Never you have a thought that your life is going to be this same forever.

Mark Cuban

The owner of Dallas Mavericks was a bartender in his own bar until the age of 25.

Don't get caught up in how many hours you work. Judge success based on having goals and measuring your results. Hard work, and lots of it is certainly needed, but focus on what you get done. What do you need to do to better for your client? To land the next customer? To expand within  your customers....

                                                          --Mark Cuban.

Suze Orman

A finance guru, was a waitress until 30.

A wise woman recognizes when her life is out of 

balance and summons the courage to act to correct it, she knows the meaning of true generosity,

happiness is the reward for the life lived in harmony, with a courage and grace.

                                                         --Suze Orman

                  Harrison Ford

An actor and producer until 30s a carpenter.

If Harrison Ford had listened to the advice of studio heads early in his career, he would have remained a carpenter and never gone on to star in some of Hollywood's biggest films and one of the industry's most remarkable stars.

I love the comic opportunities that come up in the context of a father-son relationship.                             

                                                    --Harrison Ford.

                                

J. K Rowling

Harry Potter author, until 31 a single mom on welfare.

It is impossible to live without failing at something,

unless you live so cautiously that you might has well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed at default.

 It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends. 

                                          --J. K. Rowling.

Manoj Bhargava
5 hour energy founder, a taxi driver and a monk until 30 years.

Bhargava, one of the richest Indian in America has given more than Rs500 crore to  151  organisations across India, with 406 completed or ongoing projects in the areas of healthcare, education, disability, livelihood, water and sanitation through The Hans Foundation(THF).

  

                                                                 

I would now like to share the story of one of my friends named Jagadeesh(name changed). He joined engineering after finishing his vocational group in his higher secondary school. He received CM reward for the best performance in his higher secondary school. He joined engineering which was his parents wish. We both turned out to be friends right from the beginning of our college days. Even though he was a brilliant boy in his school days, his choice of subject in his higher secondary, his Tamil medium background and our college environment made him score low in his monthly tests.

His repeated low scores in the tests made him feel more uncomfortable to sit in the classes. Within a few days he absconded from the college and the hostel. We day scholars thought that he was in the hostel and the hostlers thought that he should have gone to his native place. We were aware of this incident only when his parents came to see him after few days and found their boy missing. Later he mentioned that he wished to discontinue from his engineering studies as he was finding it very tough, but again the lecturers and his parents somehow convinced  and made him to stay back. He took to go with the choice of his parents and continue studying for the happiness of theirs.

He somehow completed his engineering studies with lot of struggles and was able to make a score of 70% marks. Then came the placements, he never was able to get through any interviews, then he decided to join as a lecturer. During our days, lecturer was the lowest paid jobs for engineers and the people who could not find an apt job for themselves could easily fetch a job in an engineering college as the number of engineering colleges in Coimbatore were more in number. He felt sick to join as a lecturer for the same reason. Finally he got a job as a lecturer in a rural self financing college and served there for a period of three years.

It was only during this stage his parents decided to get him married to a girl who was his relative; this was also against his wish. After his marriage we lost touch with him for the next one year. One fine day morning I received a call from a new number, picked up my cell to find who it was and to my surprise I came to know that it was my friend Jagadeesh. He mentioned that he and his wife got separated as both of them were not interested in the marriage, he also mentioned that he wished not to drag his life anymore. I however convinced him and we both met on the same day. I came to know that his marriage life turned out to be a hell and he had to quit from his job because of the repeated problems he faced with his wife.  I was unable to listen to the stories of my friend. He mentioned that the girl with whom he got married had an affair and it continued even after their marriage. His eyes was filled with tears when he mentioned that she never liked him for even 1% and it was only for the compulsion of her parents she nodded to marry him.

Now he is working as a labourer in a banyan factory, the continuous troubles that he had in his life made him an addict to liquor and discontinue his post graduation which is now the essential for an assistant professor as per the AICTE norms. If his parents had just listened to his thoughts his career would have been successful or if at least they had listened to him during his marriage proposal, they could have saved their son from all the troubles.

Ignorant intellect

 Whenever I go out for training especially in colleges, I learn that most of the students are unaware of what they do, they never know their destination too. The most pitiable situation is that few among them do not know the reason for why they are in that particular class room, they are ignorant. A guy who is able to imitate his favorite actor in order to attract a group of people around him is able to make stunts in his vehicle in order to keep his girl friend happy, never bothers to learn the real happiness in his life. He is ignorant. When we observe these group of students who are ignorant for the next twenty years, we understand that their lives are miserable.They turn out to be tenuous in their personal life and cause adverse effects to the society.

When I go one step further and ask a question to myself that don't we bear the responsibilities for their ignorance. We as parents and teachers don't we fail to understand their needs. How are we going to justify our part in pushing them into the dreams which we had that were unsuccessful. Did we not fail to understand that our children who are able to become heroes to their girl friends can also become heroes in their real lives. What stopped us to find time and to move close with them to analyse what their likes and dislikes. What would go wrong if we allow them to work on their area of interests.

Let us start experiencing the worth of youngsters. Let us understand that youngsters of today are the leaders of tomorrow not as words but also in practice.